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4-29-12 -  rap on the wall.   In the middle of the night, I woke up and heard two loud raps on the wall near me.  I said in my mind,  "I'm ready for a message."  Not hearing anythhing immediately, I said, "If you have a message, I'm ready to hear it."  and the male voice in my head said kiindly,  "I'll come back and see you later."

I then fell into a dream in which I seemed to be managing an apartment building I had just moved into.

I was in my closet at the beginnig, hanging up my clothes.  It was a walk-in closet and I had a lot of clothes.  When I got done, I noticed that my husband only had four pieces of clothing - all work clothes.  I wondered where the rest of his clothing was - there was plenty of room left in the closet.

I then went downstairs into a large room where lots of women had gathered - mostly white-haired ladies, who I seemed to know but not by name necessarily.  There were tables full of used clothing that had been donated, and my job apparently was to sort them out and decide who should get them.

Before I sat down, a white-haired woman came to me and asked me what she should do, and it came to me to give her a really big job.  She was a widow and didn't know what to do with herelf, so I told her,  "One minute you are a wife and mother, and in one second flat, you become a widow and nobody knows what to do then - -  why don't you write up a  Widow's Symposium?"  

She liked that idea a lot and now had something to do to occupy her time.

I ended up sitting on a sofa with several ladies and other women brought clothes over and I'd tell them who should ge it.

My husband showed up -  it was John McBain from One Life to Live TV show - now only on the SOAP  channel.   In my mind, I was thinking, He only works when I tell him to do something - he never thinks of things to do on his own.

I and John and another older woman were by now buried in piles of clothing I was sorting.

One of the pieces that was handed to me was a blouse, made of new silky fabrics, and I handed it to the woman and suggested that it might be appropriate to make it into quilting squares or something because it was made of so many little pieces of fabric sewed together.

She took one look at it and said 'No!"  and I know why -  'because it wasn't cotton".  It was too silky.  So I said to her,  "Then you can decide what to do wtih it."   I just couldn't imagine anything else to use it for -  I couldn't iamgine wearing it myself.

 

 

June 23: International Widows Day

Posted on June 23, 2011
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It is official. 2011 marks the first year the United Nations recognizes International Widows Day. It is a call to action to focus the world on the unique plight of the world’s 245 million widows who have lost their husbands. Religion, law and tradition in many countries leaves a woman ostracized when her husband dies. In many cases, she is stripped of everything because she, like his home or other possessions, belonged to him. Imagine?

The United Nations Women planned a one-day symposium to mark the first June 23rd. the night before, the UK’s former “First Lady” and a human rights attorney and activist Cherie Booth Blair told a New York crowd, she hopes International Widows Day will be marked like International Women’s Day in March, with worldwide attention.

A report release by the Loomba Trust, the foundation which began in India and has spread its work to other parts of the middle East and Africa, calculated there are more than 100 million widows in poverty. If you add by extension the children of the 245 milllion, their widowhood affects one-sixth of the world population. According to Loomba’s statistics, widowed women experience targeted murder, rape, prostitution, forced marriage, property theft, eviction, social isolation, and physical and psychological abuse.

As part of the symposium, the United Nations is hosting an art show with work by Yoko Ono and others focusing on widows and their unique needs.

For more on the report and the reasons for Widows Day SEE THE NEXT5 ARTICLE

 

It is official. 2011 marks the first year the United Nations recognizes International Widows Day. It is a call to action to focus the world on the unique plight of the world’s 245 million widows who have lost their husbands. Religion, law and tradition in many countries leaves a woman ostracized when her husband dies. In many cases, she is stripped of everything because she, like his home or other possessions, belonged to him. Imagine?

The United Nations Women planned a one-day symposium to mark the first June 23rd. the night before, the UK’s former “First Lady” and a human rights attorney and activist Cherie Booth Blair told a New York crowd, she hopes International Widows Day will be marked like International Women’s Day in March, with worldwide attention.

A report release by the Loomba Trust, the foundation which began in India and has spread its work to other parts of the middle East and Africa, calculated there are more than 100 million widows in poverty. If you add by extension the children of the 245 milllion, their widowhood affects one-sixth of the world population. According to Loomba’s statistics, widowed women experience targeted murder, rape, prostitution, forced marriage, property theft, eviction, social isolation, and physical and psychological abuse.

As part of the symposium, the United Nations is hosting an art show with work by Yoko Ono and others focusing on widows and their unique needs.

For more on the report and the reasons for Widows Day click here.

About the Cherie Blair Foundation for Women

The charity was set up in September 2008 in response to Cherie’s experiences meeting women around the world and the realisation that, with the right support, women can overcome the challenges they face and play an important part in the economies and societies in which they work and live.

Supporting women in Africa, South Asia & the Middle East

We invest in women entrepreneurs so they can build and expand their businesses - and in doing so benefit not only themselves but also their families and communities. The Foundation focuses its efforts on Africa, South Asia and the Middle East in countries where women have made strides in education and have the potential to succeed in business but lack the necessary support.

Why focus on entrepreneurs?

Women who are financially independent have greater control over their own and their children’s lives. Economic security gives women a more influential voice in tackling injustice and discrimination in their communities and wider society.

Yet women entrepreneurs around the world still lack the business skills, technology, networks and access to finance they need to be successful in the long term. The Foundation provides support in these four key areas so that women can grow their businesses and create employment opportunities.

Working in partnership with local organisations, the Foundation develops programmes that build confidence, capability and capital in women. Given that women tend to invest 90% of their income back into their families, investing in women isn’t just good ethics, it’s sound economics.

http://www.cherieblairfoundation.org/about-us

"We must recognize the important contribution of widows, and we must ensure that they enjoy the rights and social protections they deserve. Death is inevitable, but we can reduce the suffering that widows endure by raising their status and helping them in their hour of need. This will contribute to promoting the full and equal participation of all women in society. And that will bring us closer to ending poverty and promoting peace around the world."
Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon
Message for International Widows’ Day
23 June 2011

The first International Widows’ Day will be observed on 23 June, providing an opportunity to give special recognition to the plight of widows and their children in order to restore their human rights and alleviate poverty through empowerment.

In December 2010, the General Assembly declared 23 June as International Widows’ Day (A/RES/65/189). The General Assembly decided, with effect from 2011, to observe International Widows’ Day on 23 June each year, and called upon Member States, the United Nations system and other international and regional organizations, within their respective mandates, to give special attention to the situation of widows and their children.

http://www.un.org/en/events/widowsday/

LOOMBA TRUST

International Widows Day is the UN’s annual global day of action to address the poverty and injustice faced by millions of widows and their dependents in many countries. It takes place on 23 June. International Widows Day was initiated by the Loomba Foundation in 2005 and officially recognised by the United Nations General Assembly, on a motion by the Government of Gabon, on 22 December 2010.

The significance of 23 June is that this is the day, in 1954, that the woman who inspired the founding of the Loomba Foundation, Shrimati Pushpa Wati Loomba, became a widow.

When the Loomba Foundation was founded in 1997, its focus initially was on relieving the desperate plight of poor widows and their children in India – and this

and this remains a very important objective. Founder Raj Loomba soon came to realise however that this problem is by no means confined to India alone. “I was shocked to discover that widowhood was a huge problem not only in India, but across Africa,” he explained to WidowsVoice.org. “They were losing husbands through HIV, through genocide, through conflict, and they were becoming destitute. They were not looked after by governments or NGOs and they were shunned by society. It’s such a big problem, and yet nothing has been done. Nobody in the world, including the United Nations, had ever addressed the problem of widows.”

In Africa, too, the problem is more deep-rooted than current devastations like genocide and HIV. Attitudes are founded in traditions and so-called ‘customary laws’.

In 2005, Loomba Foundation president Cherie Blair launched International Widows Day at the House of Lords in London and over the next five years, the Foundation campaigned for international recognition of this day as a focus for sustained, effective, global action to bring about a radical and lasting transformation in the plight of widows. In 2006 the Loomba Foundation held an international conference on the topic at the Foreign Office in London, addressed by widows from ten countries as well as Cherie Blair, Hillary Clinton, Indian cabinet minister Renuka Chowdhury, Yoko Ono and Commonwealth Secretary-General Don McKinnon. The Foundation established offices in America and Canada and organised meetings at the United Nations, gaining the attention and support of leaders like Rwandan president Dr Paul Kagame and the former UN secretary-general Kofi Annan.

The big problem with the cause was its invisibility. Governments, NGOs, international organisations – all neglected the issue because so very little was known about it. The Loomba Foundation initiated and supported an investigative programme with writers, researchers and institutions including Chatham House and in 2010, Vijay Dutt’s Invisible Forgotten Sufferers was published with research by Risto Harma: the first comprehensive research study of the plight of widows around the world.

Backed with that hard information, support for UN recognition grew. President Ali Bongo Ondimba of Gabon and his wife Madame Sylvia Bongo Ondimba, threw their weight behind the campaign and on 22 December 2011, the United Nations General Assembly adopted a resolution from Gabon officially recognising 23 June as International Widows Day.

http://www.theloombafoundation.org/international-widows-day

 

International Widows Day is a United Nations ratified day of action to address the “poverty and injustice faced by millions of widows and their dependents in many countries”.[1] The day takes place annually on 23 June.

International Widows Day was established by The Loomba Foundation to raise awareness of the issue of widowhood. The significance of 23 June is that it was on that day in 1954 that Shrimati Pushpa Wati Loomba - mother of the Foundation’s founder, Lord Loomba – herself became a widow.[2] One of the Foundation’s key goals is to highlight what it describes as an invisible calamity. A recently published book – Invisible, Forgotten Sufferers: The Plight of Widows Around the World – reveals that there are an estimated 245 million widows worldwide, 115 million of whom live in poverty and suffer from social stigmatization and economic deprivation purely because they have lost their husbands.[3] As part of the Loomba Foundation’s awareness campaign, this study was presented to UN Secretary General Ban Ki-moon on 22 June 2010.[4]

The first International Widows Day took place in 2005 and was launched by Lord Loomba and the Foundation’s President, Cherie Blair.[5] Since that time, the scale of the event has grown, with events across the world timed to commemorate the day of awareness. By 2010 - International Widows Day sixth anniversary - events were held in Rwanda, Sri Lanka, the USA, the UK, Nepal, Syria, Kenya, India, Bangladesh and South Africa.[6]

[edit] United Nations Recognition

On the 21st December 2010, the United Nations General Assembly formally adopted 23 June as International Widows Day, endorsing by unanimous acclaim a proposal introduced by President Ali Bongo Ondimba of Gabon.[7] As well as formally recognizing 23 June as a day of observance, the accompanying resolution called upon “Member States, the United Nations system and other international and regional organizations to give special attention to the situation of widows and their children.”[8]

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The world must support its widows

Let's use International Widows Day to start a dialogue on solving the problems faced by the world's 245 million widows

Afghan widows
115 million of the world's widows still live in extreme poverty. Photograph: Ahmad Masood/Reuters

There are 245 million widows in the world, yet their problems are often ignored. Today, on the first International Widows Day, I hope to break the silence of their suffering in order to support them to play an active role in building their families and their communities.

Widows all over the world are a particularly vulnerable group subject to much prejudice. Allow me to challenge a few stereotypes. When I talk about the world's 245 million widows, I am not talking about elderly women. All across the world, widows are often women in the prime of life, young women who are left as sole carers for their children, alone responsible for their shelter, food, schooling and wellbeing. As the HIV/Aids epidemic and armed conflicts continue to wreak havoc across the world, widows are getting younger and facing tougher challenges. Many of these women face harsh discrimination and social exclusion on account of their marital status, which compounds the discrimination they already face on account of their gender. Positive steps have been taken in some parts of the world to address this situation, but there is still a long way to go.

115 million widows still live in extreme poverty. In many cases, their children have to leave school to go to work to plug the gap in the household income left by their father's death; their daughters, in particular, are therefore often at a high risk of sexual exploitation. Worldwide, more than 500 million children of widows live in hostile environments, and more than 1.5 million of these children die before the age of five. Widows' poverty, depriving their children of aspiration, education and future employment, affects the whole of society. It is a humanitarian crisis.

Today, on International Widows Day, we must ask ourselves what is to be done to tackle this issue.. Supporting widows catalyses a developmental multiplier effect: as women gain knowledge, children learn. As women become employed, economies grow. As women are given equality, nations become stronger, and justice and equity across the board become attainable. It impacts directly on poverty, their children's education, gender equality, child mortality, maternal health and on

on the spread of HIV/Aids – six of the eight millennium development goals.

Research by the Africa Partnership Forum has shown that had more women been educated and employed, Africa's economies would have doubled in size over the last 30 years. The simple truth is that for every year of schooling a mother has received the likelihood that her child dies as an infant declines by 10%. To support women, then, is to support their children; and to support vulnerable women is to support even more vulnerable children. These statistics reveal the true value of enabling families to support one another. I believe that families are the glue that holds societies together; they create strong foundations on which to build, and they are the structures that help economic growth filter throughout the whole of society. Supporting widows strengthens society's human tissue, keeping families strong even when they are broken by the death of a loved one.

As we work to achieve the millennium development goals, we need to initiate a new global dialogue on widows and their children. Starting this dialogue is the purpose of the conference on the first International Widows Day organised today by UN Women and the republic of Gabon. We seek to build new and innovative partnerships and to share best practice in this field, to fully acknowledge the lynchpin role our world's widows play in addressing many of our shared social challenges. They have a unique contribution to make in unleashing the potential of our youth, empowering them to build a brighter future for us all.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2011/jun/23/international-widows-day-support

 

 videos   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8H77exlZlvQ

 

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2gWb2Q1vpjc

 

 

THERE ARE OVER 251 MILLION WIDOWS IN THE WORLD  - MOST LIVING IN EXTREME POVERTY

the spread of HIV/Aids – six of the eight millennium development goals.

 

Widows' Day & Yoko

Independent Films, Women

 

yoko ono at the un  2011

 

Yoko Ono was at the United Nations (UN) commemorating the first-ever International Widow’s Day today (23 June) with a panel discussion featuring UN Secretary-General’s wife Ban Soon-taek, Executive Director of UN Women Michele Bachelet, First Day of Gabon Sylvia Bongo Ondimba and President of the Loomba Foundation Cherie Blair.

Addressing an audience of delegates and representatives from the civil society, Bachelet, who organized the event, said that there was an increasing number of widows in the world especially in “the context of armed conflicts around the world as well as the HIV and AIDS epidemic.”

The UN reports that there are approximately 245 million widows in the world, more than 115 million live in extreme poverty, and that in countries affected by conflict, women are frequently widowed young, thrusting upon them the heavy burden of caring for children, often in environments of unrest, displacement and lack of support.

Taking about the plight of widows around the world, the First Lady of Gabon Sylvia Bongo Ondimba said “expelled from their homes, stripped of their goods, they must summon all their courage and energy to not only over come the loss of their partners but also to continue to satisfy the needs of their children.”

To give special recognition to the situation of widows of all ages and across regions and cultures, the General Assembly declared 23 June 2011 as the first-ever International Widows’ Day in December 2010.

President of Loomba Foundation and former First Lady of the United Kingdom, Cherie Blair said the commemoration “is, in one sense, a celebration” because “the UN is acknowledging the plight of widows across the world.”

In a written message, UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon urged societies to ease the hardship that widows endure when their husbands die by respecting their rights to such social entitlements as access to inheritance, land tenure, employment and other means of livelihood.

He added that all widows should be protected by the rights enshrined in the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women and other international human rights treaties.

His wife, Ban Soon-taek, addressed the panel and asked all stakeholders to “stay engaged in the year ahead to help the world’s widows and their children.”

She added “let us keep pushing forward and meet next year to review progress and continue our efforts to give women who suffered their husbands’ deaths a great life of their own, the life they deserve.”

According to the UN, empowering widows through access to adequate healthcare, education, decent work, full participation in decision-making and public life, and lives free of violence and abuse, would give them a chance to build a secure life after bereavement.

Yesterday evening Yoko Ono, the renowned artist and the widow of John Lennon, opened an art exhibit featuring the work of London-based artist Reeta Sarkar. The exhibit was a tribute to women and mothers around the world.

While addressing patrons, she said “as a widow I’ve known the pain of losing my soul-mate” adding that “until I was well into being a widow myself I had no idea what being a widow meant in some parts of the world.”

The exhibit was sponsored by both Ono and the Loomba Foundation, a leading non-governmental organization dedicated to widow’s awareness and rights.

VIDEO AT:  http://www.filmannex.com/movie/widows-day-yoko/27489 

 

LONDON: What do the benighted widows of Vrindavan have in common with Yoko Ono, complete with folksy expensive panama hat and huge bumble-bee sunglasses? Answer: Raj Loomba, bullish British Indian businessman and his high-profile, celebrity-supported campaign to force the United Nations to declare June 23 International Widows Day.

Ono, 73, is arguably the world's most famous widow but that is not much of a disadvantage when her husband was John Lennon. In Vrindavan, city of widows, meanwhile, an estimated 16,000 husbandless women sing bhajans for a pittance and live on the margins of society.

 

Another famous widow was Jacqueline Kennedy

 

Not only did she have to endure the horror of sitting beside the horror that happened to her husband, after the funeral she was forced to live under the same roof of people whoh caused her husband's death.

 

Famous Widows of Wealthy Men

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Amber D. Walker

Amber D. Walker has been writing professionally since 1989. She has had essays published in "Fort Worth Weekly," "Starsong," "Paper Bag," "Living Buddhism" and more. Walker holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in English from the University of Texas and worked as an English teacher abroad for six years.

By Amber D. Walker, eHow Contributor

No one lives forever, not even the most wealthy. Rich men are often powerful and hugely successful in their fields. Death puts an end to that, leaving the ones left behind to strike off on their own. But sometimes the widows of wealthy men are or become as famous and successful as their husbands.

  1. Priscilla Presley

    • Priscilla Presley was only 14 years old when she met rock 'n' roll singer Elvis Presley while he was stationed in Germany with the Army. Eight years later, she married the King and they had one daughter together, Lisa Marie. Unfortunately, the marriage did not work out and the Presleys divorced in 1973. Neither had remarried when Elvis died in 1977. Priscilla became co-executor of the massive Presley estate. She proved to be a canny business woman, turning Elvis's Graceland home into a money-making shrine rather than a financial drain, and parlaying this success into other business endeavors, such as merchandising, fragrance and jewelry lines, video projects and music licensing.

    Anna Nicole Smith

    • Anna Nicole Smith was already a successful model and had appeared in a few films when she met and married J. Howard Marshall, a staggeringly rich oil tycoon from Texas. Marshall was almost 90 years old when the two married and did not live much longer, dying the next year. He left Smith nothing in his will, but Smith filed for half of the $1.6 billion estate anyway. Marshall's son, E. Pierce Marshall, fought it. The case dragged on; in the meantime, Anna Nicole Smith continued to act in movies, starred in a reality TV show and endorsed a line of diet products. After a series of personal tragedies, Smith herself died in 2007.

    Jackie Kennedy Onassis

    • Jackie Kennedy Onassis holds the unenviable distinction of being the famous widow of not one but two wealthy and powerful men. Jackie was First Lady of the United States, married to President John F. Kennedy, when he was assassinated in November of 1963. She then married airline owner and shipping magnate Aristotle Onassis in 1968. Aristotle died in 1975. Jackie was rich and popular with the American public but wanted to work in a field in which she had always been interested, literature. She spent her last years working as an editor for major book publishers and lobbying for preservation and improvement of the arts in New York City.

    Yoko Ono

    • Yoko One first met John Lennon, member of The Beatles, in 1966, at one of her own art exhibitions. The two did not begin an affair until almost two years later, and after Lennon divorced his first wife, married in 1969. The pair worked together on many art and music projects until Lennon effectively retired from music for five years in 1980. They recorded a hit album released in 1980, but Lennon was murdered at the end of that year. Ono manages Lennon's estate, raised their son, and has continued her art and music projects, releasing albums and writing two off-Broadway musicals.



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Famous New York Widows

Notes from an unfinished article:

In 1980, Nicholas Pileggi at New York Magazine assigned me to arrange for a group photo of New York’s most famous widows. After months of fruitless overtures, I was utterly defeated. Maybe someone like Truman Capote or George Hamilton could have pulled it off. Rich doyennes are suspicious of people’s motives. They become the prey of “tombstone ghouls”—Earl Scheib-types who try to persuade them to erect bigger graveside monuments over the phone. Perhaps they feared I was scheming for their jewels.

The first question asked by each widow upon contact was “Who else do you have?” Well, I made overtures to Mrs. (Elinor) Lou Gehrig, Mrs. (Claire) Babe Ruth, Mrs. (Lucy) Louis Armstrong, Mrs. (Rachel) Jackie Robinson, Mrs. (Vera) Igor Stravinsky, Mrs. (Elaine) John Steinbeck, Mrs. (Dorothy) Richard Rogers. Those are the types Nick Pileggi wanted. Ones I preferred, like Lillian Lugosi or Honey Bruce, were apparently not New York mag material, and A-list widows, like Mrs. Lou Gehrig, might not have consented to posing with them. I spent months in agonized pursuit of Mrs. Lou Gehrig. She made me jump through hoops with her lawyer, demanded final approval, then stood me up twice.

I consulted four books on the subject. Widowhood is inherently sad, and instantly identifies a woman who has outlived her partner. No matter how successfully she controls her life, she is labeled, legally and figuratively, a widow unless she remarries. And widows of famous men are considered a minority within a neglected minority. They were more likely to have spent less time in the company of their busy alpha male husbands.

Widowhood could also be a state of mind, even before it hit. There were perennial widows, like Mrs. Babe Ruth, who seemed to be one for most of her life. There were honorary widows, like Mrs. Jackie Robinson, and of course heroic ones, like Jackie Kennedy, who was also twice-widowed. Some, like Mrs. Sen. Jake Javits, seemed to have widowly qualities even before or without becoming one. Mrs. (Madeline) Jack Gilford and Mrs. (Kate) Zero Mostel wrote a nostalgic memoir—170 Years of Show Business—in widowly fashion, before either became one. Both of their families were victims of the insidious 1950’s Hollywood blacklist.

From my notes on one of the few interviews that took place:

Kate Mostel, Zero’s wife, welcomed me into their exquisite home at 146 Central Park West. Artworks adorned the apartment, with striking self-portraits of Zero as Tevye on the walls. Zero was only 62 when he died in 1977, robbed of his prime years by the 1950’s blacklist. He’d already starred on Broadway, in opera, Yiddish theater, radio and movies. He was the reigning star at the integrated Café Society nightclub in Greenwich Village when he married Kate, a Rockette and Chez Paree chorus girl, in 1944.

Kate was responsible for talking a reluctant Zero into his greatest roles, including Fiddler on the Roof’s Tevye—the prototype from which all subsequent actors modeled themselves. One of her Yorkshire poodles does an authentic Eddie Cantor imitation, waving both paws and rolling his eyes.

Zero was blacklisted three times--on radio, television and in Hollywood. Even 25 years later, after Zero’s stellar career throughout the 1960s, the subject is raw. She still tenses up whenever she sees a photo of Senator Joe McCarthy. “Zero signed some petitions that communists also signed, so they lumped them all together.” His nightclub act included an irreverent caricature of a senator, which surely rubbed McCarthy the wrong way. Kate was disappointed by The Front, one of Zero’s last movie appearances in 1976, in which he portrayed a Hollywood blacklist victim. The role was apparently watered down from Zero’s own situation.

There was a collective sigh of relief among actors in their circle when McCarthy died in 1957. “I was afraid to open the door every time the bell rang, ’cause it could have been the FBI. I told the kids not to open the door until I was there.”

The blacklist refugees became such a family that they remain tight to this day. She refers to Ring Lardner’s, and her own children as “Second generation blacklist.” Widowed less than three years, she says she doesn’t hear from Zero’s poker-playing men friends—just those who were “our friends.” Has her social life changed?

“I don’t think so. I still go to the same parties, to the theater, but by myself. Maybe it’s a little quieter.”

Kate Mostel, herself, was only 67 when she passed away in 1986.


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